Now that the Learning Domestic Discipline blog is nearly 8 months old, I'm comfortable recommending some variations/escalations on corner time for couples with a bit of Domestic Discipline experience to build upon. Often during the corner time punishment, the wife naturally and without thinking does certain behaviors that break her focus on the original mistake. These corner time escalations are intended to either A) revert the wife back to focusing on the original mistake if she lost focus/got distracted during corner time, or B) aid in keeping her focus on the mistake for the duration of corner time.
If you're new to the blog or a beginner with Domestic Discipline, I highly recommend you read over the original corner time post before implementing any of the following corner time escalations. These corner time escalations are for more experienced couples, and should only be done by couples who have practiced Domestic Discipline for several months, at the very least.
Before getting started, it's important to address why some of these escalations may be necessary in a corner time punishment situation. The primary reason for corner time is for the wife to focus on the mistake/poor judgment that warranted the punishment in the first place. It's important that while in corner time the wife identify the problem, think about WHY it's a problem, and think about how she can handle herself better in similar future situations. When the wife loses focus during corner time, parts of - or ALL of - those aspects in correcting the issue can be lost, rendering the punishment ineffective/useless. To achieve the best results in getting the behavior corrected, it's crucial the wife remain focused on the issue at hand for the duration of the corner time punishment.
The most common issues wives struggle with during a corner time punishment are turning around, trying to leave the corner, asking when corner time is over, rubbing the buttocks (if the corner time is administered after a spanking) during corner time, and having a "wandering eye" during corner time. All of these issues clearly show a lack of focus on the original problem that prompted the corner time punishment in the first place, and there are a few options husbands have to get the wife's focus back on track.
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In my experience, without question the most common problem husbands have when administering a corner time punishment is the wife constantly turning around during the punishment and/or constantly trying to leave the corner before the punishment is completed. For this issue, I recommend the husband have his wife stand in the corner with her forehead up against the wall for the duration of the punishment. I understand this can be perceived as a bit silly and/or juvenile, however it can be an effective means to correcting the problem of her turning around/leaving the corner without having to escalate the punishment into bedroom time, or a spanking. This also helps the wife maintain focus on the original problem and how to correct it, rather than constantly thinking about leaving the corner or asking, "how much time is left?", or "is it over yet?". When she's doing that, she has lost focus and isn't getting the full benefit of the punishment. It's important the husband help keep his wife focused on the problem so it doesn't become a repetitive issue.
While the wife may find this ridiculous, annoying, or childish - which is understandable - she does have control over whether or not her husband has to take this escalation measure with her. If she's cooperative during the punishment, this doesn't have to happen. If she isn't, then her husband has to determine whether or not it's a big enough issue to take this escalation measure.
If the wife has an issue with rubbing her buttocks while in corner time (after a spanking), I recommend the husband have his wife conduct the corner time punishment with her hands upon her head for the duration of the punishment. How it's done is relatively self-explanatory - while in the corner, the wife simply places her hands on top of her head, interlocking the fingers (which helps the arms not get so tired) for the duration of the punishment. This will keep her hands away from her buttocks, and will also serve as a constant reminder to maintain focus on the original issue. It's completely harmless, but is an effective way in helping the wife refrain from rubbing her buttocks after a spanking, as well as effective in helping the wife remain focused on the original problem.
Again, the wife may find this ridiculous, annoying, or childish but she does have control over whether or not her husband has to take this escalation measure. If she's cooperative during the punishment, this doesn't have to happen. If she isn't, then her husband has to determine whether or not it's a big enough issue to take this escalation measure.
To be clear, I only recommend this corner time escalation if the wife simply does not understand how to conduct herself during corner time. I don't recommend this escalation measure often, however it is an option for husbands if they feel it's necessary. Essentially this option is having the wife stand in the corner with her bare buttocks exposed for the duration of the punishment.
The reason I don't recommend this option as much as the others is because it can be humiliating for the wife, which is not the purpose of any aspect of any punishment. The purpose of this corner time escalation technique is to serve as a reminder to the wife that she needs to cooperate with and remain focused during her corner time punishment, otherwise her defiance could lead to a spanking. This corner time escalation is highly effective, however husbands need to be sensitive to the fact that it CAN be somewhat humiliating for the wife. Just as with the other escalations, this doesn't need to happen, and the wife can control whether or not this escalation is necessary with her cooperation level during her corner time punishment. This corner time escalation technique is, by far, the most effective in ensuring the wife remain focused for the duration of the punishment.
I remind you, these are simply recommendations. I encourage couples to discuss these options and determine which option(s) would be beneficial to them, and whether or not they want to implement any of these escalations in to their corner time punishments. It's best to discuss these options when the couple is not in any kind of discipline situation so they aren't biased to them. Naturally in a punishment situation couples (particularly wives) aren't going to want the punishment to be escalated, however when a couple has a discussion under "normal" circumstances, generally they are much more understanding of the purpose of the escalation, and much more rational when discussing the benefits of the escalation. As with everything else in a Domestic Discipline relationship, a couple should have a meaningful discussion about implementing new/different techniques, with the final decision ultimately made by the head of the household.